room for the heart breaks........

Chai · Heimin (Commoner) Joined: Dec 28, 2005 Posts: 71

Yeah, talking to friends might help....but what if it is your best friend that breaks your heart? What then? It happened to me and the thing is I can't really blame him for it.

My bestfriend is a guy and we're always so close. We talk about everything. A few years ago he started going out with this girl and I started going out with another guy. Didn't work out with the guy I was seeing and I broke up with him, but my friend was happy with his girlfriend.

Things went great for them actually and I was happy for him. Glad that he was having fun....but I never really thought it would go anywhere, you know?

Then one day in October 04, I messaged him up to say hi coz it had been a while since I talked to him, his girlfriend replied saying he wasn't using that number anymore. And then she sends another message saying they were engaged!!

My first reaction? I cried. I never cry, especially not in front of people, but when I read that message, I burst into tears in front of my roommate. It was then I realized that I didn't want to lose him to some other girl. But it was too late. Their parents were happy with the engagement and they had already set up a wedding date and everything.

What hurts more is the fact that he didn't tell me this himself personally. He didn't find time to tell me that he was engaged and getting married!!!

They've been married for 7 months now. Their anniversary is coming up in March. Gotta get them a card.

I guess its pathetic to realize you love someone so much at such a time. I never did tell him that I love him. I wouldn't want to ruin his happy life or anything and his wife is already suspicious of me. Coz for their wedding I sent them a dirty gift! Since then she kinda forbade him to see me and he has to sneak off to his cousins to meet me!!

Sucks, but thats life!

joekool · Posted: Sat Jan 07, 2006 1:59 am Post subject:

well true love is hard to find some people can find many but some just cant find one...

personally i don't how it feels when a guy meets the girl he truly likes because i have never been attached

when i ask my friends 'how do you whether she's the one for you?' i get the classic answer 'the feeling' well maybe this feeling is just indescribable in words or perhapes one instinctively knows that that person is right him or her

Chai · Heimin (Commoner) Joined: Dec 28, 2005 Posts: 71

In my case I knew it was him when I realized he'll never be mine. I knew it because of that empty feeling I had when I thought about life without him.

XxKeresaxX · newbie! Joined: Dec 29, 2005 Posts: 8

well...my first "heartbreaking" experience wasn't really breaking up with a bf or something....it was my parents fighting...>.<

they were getting real close to a divorce and we would be sitting at the dinner table all fine and all of a sudden one of them just chucks a fork over...then well...food/dishes/silverware fight....
but wut bothered me more was when they started popping up questions....asking me and my siblings who we liked more....and telling us that very soon, we'll end up making a choice...O.O...
and well....I kinda found at that making yourself as busy as possible could shut stuff out....reading books too.....I know that's kinda like running away, just not physically..but I just couldn't stand them fighting...>.<
it was actually my grandpa's sickness and lying in the hospital that stopped them fighting...and I'm really glad..O.O...at least now I don't have to spend DAYS AND DAYS in my room trying to shut out the noise....
so...ya....my first heartbreak....

the second time was really because of my bf....
we knew each other for like 7 years? and were going out for like 2 years....and at first, everything went really well...
but then...it was kinda like he got tired of me...>.<
and wanted something..."fresh"...?
he just stopped talking to me....and msg-ing me....and he even got a new cell....just to make sure I couldn't call him....

I thought it was because he had provincials...? and was too busy....
but then I found out later from his friends that I got dumped...O.O....and he alreadly found someone...new....and it was my best friend....
for the next 2 days I was in shock.....
then I started crying....right in class...O.O...

well.....I started getting busy and all that again...and in the end I kinda got over it....but it still hurts....a lot....

...and I told my friends 'bout wut happened....and most of them told me that that guy had asked them out before as well....
and it was like I was the fool there.....actually taking him seriously...

anyway~ most of the girls now are staying away from him now~ thx to me and my experience....
and i just HATE men like that~!!!!
Evil or Very Mad

GearBox · Posted: Sat Jan 07, 2006 7:51 pm Post subject:

well, i kinda admired with you Very Happy

unlike me i keep pretending of being tough and not crying.
me and my girlfriend knows each other for 2 years and suddenly she said
she had enough with me. I keep questioning myself what am i doing wrong to her. Till on July on 2005 i got the answer.. i was like a nerd read and read book all the time (wtf) and there's no fun going out with me... dang.. wish i know sooner, i could have change.. but she never gave a chance... and i completely suprise when she ask me for a date on celebration of year 2006.. if you wonder whats my answer, you can guess out by bad terms.. hehee and sorry for my english, i keep learning improving my english. Very Happy

pyrorecca · Posted: Sat Jan 07, 2006 9:33 pm Post subject:

I read a helluva lotta books too. I've been neglecting fiction in favour of my textbooks these days though..........goddam school.

Join the book-club. The girls there will be all over ya. lol

Elvin · Yari Ashigaru Joined: Jun 08, 2005 Posts: 283

3 unrequited loves

first one lasted about 1 year in grade 5, was the smart girl in class, a bit stuck-up but i thought she was cute. i don't recall ever talking to her

second one lasted for almost 3 years, started at the end of grade 6 and ended somewhere in grade 9. i recall talking to her twice.

third one started in grade 10 and ended at the end of grade 12. talked to her 3 times, am still pretty fond of her even though i don't see her anymore. It's only been a year after all. She was quiet and short, but i found her really cute (although my friends say otherwise), the only one of the three that's made me feel jealousy even though the second one had a boyfriend (someone was sharing prom pictures, the guy was standing beside her, he wasn't her boyfriend or anything, but for a second i had a killing intent Cool

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i didn't tell all 3 how i felt. i was the quiet guy in class up until recently, all 3 left when they graduated and i don't expect to see them ever again. my strategy of waiting until someone likes me enough to ask me out didn't pan out, yet i'm still using it Rolling Eyes

currently not interested in anyone, probably won't get married, not that i'm totally against the idea, i just doubt it'll happen. i don't feel depressed about it, more of a "meh" feeling. I think i'm done with love, although i still feel deep friendship/fondness towards some girls. I don't think/worry about love anymore. After telling myself that I found it easier to talk to girls, whereas before i'd open my mouth but nothing would come out, or i'd speak too fast and with 1~2 word sentences. I'm not really heart broken, just thought i'd share.

pyrorecca · Posted: Sat Jan 07, 2006 10:18 pm Post subject:

I've got 4 sisters so I'm not particularly shy around girls. Actually I think I'm more outgoing around girls than when I'm around guys!! Which is quite sad really........

I've got many friends who are girls, but no girlfriend currently. Not that I want a girlfriend. I need a dog. My present one is about 15 yrs old, very sickly. I take her out for walks 3 times a week but she still is unhealthy Crying or Very sad

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edit> oh whoops...I got a bit out of point didn't I?

ltdedloser · Conscript Joined: Nov 16, 2005 Posts: 110

ive liked my friend for the past 6 months but, before i could build up the courage to tell her, she got herself a boyfriend...
theyve been going out for a while now so i dont really see any hope for me in this...

unrequited love sucks...

joekool · Posted: Sun Jan 08, 2006 4:07 am Post subject:

yeah undoubtable...

seems like those that i like are just 'uninterested in relationships' but then again i have to respect their decision after life can't be that smooth sailing, some people may be smooth sailing in relationships but in other things they may be bad at it

darkheartassasin · Posted: Sun Jan 08, 2006 11:01 pm Post subject:

joekool> there will be oneday she will have interest in relationship.maybe now she is not ready to start a relationship or she has someone but she could not express it because she might too shy.. who know?

Kenjo · Posted: Mon Jan 09, 2006 5:23 am Post subject:

Well my first gf was when i am 16. We dated for almost one year but she left to go aboard. I really wanted to continue the relationship with her even if she was aboard but she didn't want it. So i had to accept her decision. We were good together, hardly have any quarrel or fight.

My second gf was when i am 18. We had opposite personalities but managed to be together for about 6mths. She said i was too quiet and boring for her so we broke up. From the beginning i knew this relationship wouldn't work out..... but dumb me just follow the flow~~~~

KingDarr · Heimin (Commoner) Joined: Jan 03, 2006 Posts: 64

ohayo · Posted: Tue Jan 10, 2006 11:22 am Post subject:

Kenjo · Posted: Tue Jan 10, 2006 12:00 pm Post subject:

lol thx for the hug dude Mr. Green

well my horoscope is Aquarius if u're curious about it.....