give advice, to help me

[jdarkcrow8]

lately i have been haveing trouble at my school cause i cant seem to keep my friends. i always piss them off or they piss me off, or they just stab me in the back. so i thought i would ask what do u think i should do.i mean i dont want to start the new school year with a bad start.

really anything u think might help, plz tell me.
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[Xristyan]

this can't be answered in a single post...

for one I don't know your personality or behaviour to be able to assess how you deal with these so called friends...

I don't know what type of crowd you and your "friends" are so whatever I say may not really apply to one specified group...

but let me try this....

the dictionary meaning of friends is that it is a person whom one knows, likes, and trusts. Going a little further it states that a friend is a person with whom one is allied in a struggle or cause; a comrade...

key things to note are the words trust and struggle...

if you don't trust someone, the closest he could be to you is an acquaintance... and they are not there for you in times of struggle then they aren't really friends...

now with those parameters assess your "friends". Is there trust amongst you guys, are you together in overcoming struggles?

if not then we have a problem...

I'm not saying this is the right way to do it but this is just how I would look at it... so basically this is just my opinion...

first off assess yourself... would you be someone who would make a good friend? someone people could trust and someone that is reliable in times of need. Do you have tendencies or behaviour that seem to piss people off or draw them away from you? If so can you make changes to yourself? I'm not saying change your personality, but more like be a little more tactful with these tendencies, have moderation, have control...

now if you find that there is nothing wrong with you now look at the people you are being with, are they trust worthy, are they reliable, do they have quirks and tendencies that drive people away? can they change?

now after assessing these things you might find something that is off.. it could be you or it could be them or maybe even a little bit of both. that is when you have to make compromises. talk it out. silly as it may seem a lot of misunderstandings could easily be solved by just mentioning it. rather than not talking about it and in the end making the matter worse.

so yeah... those are my two cents... hope it helps...
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